Embracing the Unexpected
A Candid Reflection on Mental Health with a little Humor
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Introduction
“Why Bipolar When You Can Get It For Free?” is a candid commentary on my personal encounter with the mental health system, presented with a touch of humor to navigate the seriousness of the topic. While the subject demands respect, infusing moments of levity allows for a more approachable exploration.
Embarking on the journey of mental health recovery often resembles navigating a labyrinth of uncertainty, with each turn revealing new challenges and insights. My own voyage commenced in 2004, although the seeds of my struggles had been silently germinating for years prior. It wasn’t until the culmination of these issues that I realized the depth of my predicament.
Locating the necessary services and understanding how to utilize them optimally became my initial hurdles. The process was daunting, akin to treading uncharted territory. Numerous blind alleys led me astray, each dead-end illuminating what didn’t align with my needs. Mistakes were inevitable companions on this voyage, yet they proved indispensable in retrospect. Though often harsh and unforgiving, they were vital in shaping my path towards recovery.
The journey through the mental health system was a tapestry woven with resilience and perseverance. Each setback, while disheartening, served as a stepping stone towards understanding and growth. It was a testament to the adage that the road to recovery is seldom linear; rather, it’s an intricate dance of trial and error.
The wisdom gleaned from these experiences serves as a beacon of hope for others navigating similar waters. It underscores the importance of embracing the journey, flaws and all, as an integral part of the healing process. Despite the challenges encountered, the voyage towards mental well-being is one imbued with courage and resilience.
As I reflect on my journey, I am reminded that recovery is not merely a destination but a continuous evolution. Each stumble, each detour, contributes to the tapestry of resilience that defines our path towards healing. And while the road may be arduous, the lessons learned along the way are invaluable treasures guiding us towards brighter horizons.
It is my sincerest wish that by sharing a glimpse of my journey, others may find solace and encouragement in their own paths towards mental health recovery. If you or a loved one find yourselves facing similar challenges, I implore you to seek the assistance you deserve. There is a wealth of services, programs, and resources available to support you on your journey, and I fervently hope you take full advantage of them.
reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness but a testament to your strength and resilience
Remember, reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness but a testament to your strength and resilience. You are not alone in this journey, and there are countless individuals and organizations dedicated to helping you navigate through the complexities of mental health challenges.
May you find the courage to seek the support you need and the strength to embrace the journey towards healing. Your well-being is invaluable, and you deserve to live a life filled with hope, purpose, and fulfillment.
A Glimpse into Normalcy
My upbringing, seemingly ordinary, included a loving family, siblings, and the warmth of parental guidance. No extreme hardships, just the typical struggles that come with life.
My father imparted a fundamental principle, akin to the core of many mental health programs—Mindfulness. However, in his distinctive way, he labeled it as “Pay Attention!” This phrase echoed through my lifetime, reiterated thousands of times. His wisdom emphasized the importance of anchoring oneself in the present moment. Instead of dwelling on the past or anxiously anticipating the future, he urged focusing on the here and now. It wasn’t a dismissal of learning from the past or planning for the future, but a reminder to embrace the richness of the present experience.
I think most people want to be “normal”, yet few of us have a clear idea of what normal might actually be. I’ve always thought I had a rather normal life. I’ve had friends, enjoyed time with my extended family, had a family I loved, and work I enjoyed. Sounds pretty normal, right?
The concept of “normal” is indeed subjective and can vary widely from person to person. What may be considered normal for one individual might differ for another. This description of having friends, enjoying time with extended family, loving your family, and enjoying your work does sound like a fulfilling and meaningful life. However, the idea of normalcy extends beyond external factors and often includes mental and emotional well-being.
It’s essential to recognize that everyone’s journey is unique, and what may seem normal to one person might not align with another’s experiences. Embracing and understanding your own path, with its ups and downs, is a valuable perspective. Rather than striving for a vague notion of “normal,” focusing on personal growth, well-being, and contentment can contribute to a more meaningful and fulfilling life.
Unearthing the Past
As life unfolded, I found myself confronting mental health challenges that had quietly simmered beneath the surface, finally boiling over in my late 40s. Upon reflection, I unearthed layers of struggles from my teenage years that had either remained unnoticed or purposefully disregarded. Despite outward appearances of normalcy, complexities lurked beneath the facade, demanding recognition.
Contemplating the journey leading up to seeking therapy evokes a multitude of emotions, including grappling with the regret of not recognizing issues earlier. It’s a common dilemma to wrestle with the hindsight realization that perhaps intervention could have occurred sooner. Yet, a pivotal aspect of the therapeutic process involves acknowledging that the past is just that—the past.
Understanding that the past doesn’t dictate one’s present identity is a profound and transformative realization. By setting aside self-judgment, one can delve into the realms of self-understanding and acceptance, paving the way for personal growth, resilience, and the formulation of strategies to navigate the present and carve out a positive future. Therapy serves as a nurturing space to embark upon and embrace this transformative journey.
However, refraining from judgment extends beyond self-reflection. It also entails distinguishing between making value judgments and discerning cause and effect in relation to the influence of others on our lives. In my case, my father’s strict demeanor initially invited harsh judgment and resentment for the impact it had on me. Yet, as I cultivated greater understanding, I realized that while his actions may have had enduring effects, the crux lay not in condemning his mistakes but in how I chose to respond and adapt to the circumstances.
In retracing the footprints of our past, we encounter a myriad of individuals who have left indelible imprints on our journey—some in passing, others with profound impact. Each holds significance in their own right, offering valuable insights into reshaping our reactions to external influences. By embracing these insights, we pave the way for a more serene and fulfilling existence, one where we wield agency over our responses to life’s myriad encounters.
The Unveiling Journey
Join me as I delve into the labyrinth of the mental health system, acknowledging its gravity while uncovering unexpected moments of humor. This narrative reflects on the challenges faced, the nuances of the mental health system, and the unforeseen revelations that have shaped not just my understanding of mental health but also my own identity.
In my early years, surrounded by individuals seemingly untouched by mental illness, I perceived it as a rarity. However, statistics paint a different picture, revealing that approximately 1 in 4 people in our immediate surroundings grapple with symptoms that warrant treatment. Moreover, these figures indicate that virtually everyone, close to 100%, will encounter some form of mental illness requiring treatment during their lifetimes.
Regrettably, the stark reality is that a significant portion of individuals facing mental health challenges may not seek or receive the necessary help when they need it the most. This discrepancy between the prevalence of mental health issues and the utilization of available support underscores the importance of raising awareness, reducing stigma, and fostering an environment where seeking help is encouraged and supported.
Embarking on the journey through the mental health system mirrors the experience of becoming a new parent. Just as there’s no manual handed out with a newborn, there’s no guidebook for navigating mental health challenges. Initially, it feels like stumbling through uncharted territory, trying to make sense of the unfamiliar terrain. Every moment, awake or asleep, is consumed by the quest to understand and manage the complexities that arise.
With the birth of subsequent children, the journey differs. Mistakes are still made, and new questions surface, but the overwhelming sense of bewilderment subsides. Experience teaches that not every issue is an emergency or life-threatening. It’s not about having all the answers; rather, it’s about knowing that solutions exist and can be found.
…knowing that solutions exist and can be found…
Similarly, delving into the mental health system presents a steep learning curve. The abundance of information and unfamiliar terminology can be daunting, leaving one feeling lost in a sea of uncertainty. Timing seems to conspire against us, with crucial questions arising after appointments when guidance is out of reach. In these moments, the temptation to surrender can be strong.
Yet, it’s often during these moments of doubt that a glimmer of hope emerges, often from unexpected sources. A chance encounter with a stranger, unaware of their impact, offers just the encouragement needed to persevere. These brief but profound interactions serve as reminders that support can manifest in the most unlikely of places, guiding us forward on our journey towards healing.
My Turning Point
In my 47th year, a stark shift occurred in my life, dramatically affecting my ability to navigate everyday situations. This turning point was marked by a noticeable decline in my capacity to hold down a job or perform work in the usual manner. The once bright outlook on life dimmed, replaced by intense self-criticism. The downward spiral continued as I lost a well-paying job, attempted consulting work with limited success, and grappled with a significant challenge in maintaining focus.
The challenges of that year extended beyond professional struggles. Our house was lost, financial difficulties led to bankruptcy, and a marriage of 26 years concluded with a divorce. Post-divorce, my sister and her husband extended a lifeline, inviting me to relocate from Georgia to Minnesota to live with them temporarily. In 2004, I made the transformative move from the familiar landscapes of Georgia to the snow-covered, frozen terrain of Minnesota.
This marked the initiation of my journey within the mental health system, a phase that proved to be exceptionally challenging. At the outset, I was adrift, uncertain about the necessary steps and what support I truly required. Navigating this unfamiliar territory was daunting, as I grappled with the unknown procedures and where to seek assistance. Thankfully, my sister provided unwavering understanding and support during this bewildering time.
The process of finding a therapist was far from seamless, involving several unsuccessful attempts before discovering one with whom I felt comfortable opening up. It took months to establish a therapeutic relationship that began to address the challenges I was facing. However, this was merely the beginning. Exploring additional services, I later availed myself of the social worker services offered by the county.
An invaluable lesson emerged from this period: transitioning from one therapist to another doesn’t cast a negative light on the therapist, nor does it evoke disappointment or anger from them. Therapists recognize the unique emotional and psychological connection inherent in the patient-therapist relationship, distinct from the patient-doctor dynamic. Departing from a therapist doesn’t imply their incompetence; rather, it underscores the importance of finding a fitting emotional and psychological connection for effective therapeutic support.
During this period, my condition took a distressing downturn, marked by several suicide attempts, some of which came perilously close to success. There were instances where medical professionals expressed uncertainty about my survival until the next day, occurring three times. Recovery, as I came to understand, is a gradual process that unfolds over several years. It took an extended period before I felt a semblance of stability and safety for sustained durations. This tumultuous phase took a toll on my family and friends, who witnessed the struggle firsthand.
Amidst the unspoken question of “Why?!”, a few courageous individuals dared to inquire. The answer, as surprising to me as it might be to others, wasn’t rooted in weariness with life or feeling overwhelmed. Instead, it was a conviction that everyone around me would be better off without my presence—a belief that I had become an insurmountable burden, making their lives needlessly challenging. This misconception was bluntly corrected by one of my therapists. With unwavering directness, she asserted, “You’re not that F#@king important!”. The shock of her words lingered, but the essential point she made remains etched in my mind and heart to this day.
Then Versus Now
In the aftermath of the pandemic, there has been a significant enhancement in access to mental health services. The widespread impact of pandemic-induced isolation has brought about a fundamental shift in our societal outlook. Unlike before, when advertisements for mental health services were a rare sight, it has become commonplace to encounter billboards, TV commercials, and online ads promoting mental health counseling services. Seeking assistance for concerns such as depression and anxiety is now more widely accepted in the prevailing climate, reflecting a positive transformation in our collective attitude towards mental health.
Regrettably, my initial foray into seeking help was far from the current landscape of improved access. Navigating through a labyrinth of providers and services became a challenging ordeal. Identifying financial avenues to make use of available services added another layer of complexity to the process. Discovering who offered the needed services proved to be a formidable task, often involving following several blind alleys before stumbling upon someone who happened to possess the right answer. The journey was marked by hurdles, requiring persistence and resourcefulness to connect with the appropriate support.
Persistence emerged as the linchpin in my path to recovery. I consider myself fortunate to have had a sister who steadfastly supported and encouraged me throughout this challenging process. There were numerous occasions when I found myself lacking the will and strength to continue the struggle, and it was during these moments that she stepped up, becoming a driving force that kept me going. The significance of the unwavering support and love from my sister and other family members cannot be overstated. Their presence made a profound difference, and without their encouragement, my story might have taken a much darker turn. It underscores the pivotal role that family and close friends can play in one’s journey towards recovery and well-being.
This experience underscores the critical importance of being open and honest with those close to you. Opening up about one’s difficulties can be an intimidating and even terrifying prospect. The fear of rejection and humiliation may loom large, creating overwhelming barriers. However, as powerful as those fears may be, the reality of the love and support you receive often proves to be much stronger. The stark contrast between the expected negativity and the actual warmth and understanding I encountered remains etched in my memory. This revelation has not only changed my entire outlook but has also fueled my commitment to being open with everyone I encounter about the transformative impact therapy can have. It is the reason I refuse to perceive mental health issues as something shameful or negative, striving instead to promote understanding and acceptance.
On this journey to recovery, I’ve encountered some of the most wonderful and courageous individuals. In the past, I mistakenly perceived people with mental health issues as “weak.” However, the reality is quite the opposite; the people I’ve met along this path are some of the strongest and most courageous individuals on the planet. I’ve witnessed individuals triumph over challenges far more severe than my own. I’ve met people who’ve made progress without the support of family and friends. I’ve encountered those who were once homeless, living on the streets and scavenging for food, and who now lead rich and fulfilling lives.
The key is to believe it is possible. Even when the possibility seems obscured, and you must take it on faith, know that there is a way for life to get better!
No matter how hopeless or desperate things may seem, there is a path to overcome these challenges. Take heart; there is a way to improve your own life and situation. The key is to believe it is possible. Even when the possibility seems obscured, and you must take it on faith, know that there is a way for life to get better!
Navigating the path to recovery in mental health presents notable differences compared to the treatment of physical ailments. Consider the scenario of breaking an arm: in a hospital, doctors and staff take charge of fixing it, and your role is essentially to allow them to do their jobs. However, mental health treatment operates quite differently. If treating a broken arm mirrored the approach taken in mental health, the process would diverge significantly.
…the only person I can change is myself; I can’t “fix” someone else, and conversely, someone else can’t “fix” me…
In this hypothetical scenario, upon arriving at the hospital for a broken arm, they would instruct you on how to take an X-ray, and you, not the medical professionals, would be responsible for capturing it. Subsequently, you would be guided on how to interpret the X-ray. Rather than doctors, nurses, and technicians performing the necessary actions, you would take on the responsibility of setting the broken bone and applying a cast. In mental health, the active involvement of the individual in their own healing process becomes a distinctive feature, demanding a collaborative effort between the individual and mental health professionals.
Learning How To Be A Patient
A valuable lesson I’ve learned is that the only person I can change is myself; I can’t “fix” someone else, and conversely, someone else can’t “fix” me. This principle holds true, especially in the unique relationship between a therapist and a patient—a dynamic distinct from the typical relationships we have with doctors and healthcare providers. It was an unexpected aspect of my own experience, one that required a learning curve.
I often wish there were a preparatory class, a guide on how to best leverage the therapy process, before stepping into it. Navigating the nuances of this therapeutic relationship and understanding the boundaries between self-change and external influence is a crucial aspect of mental health care that, in my journey, unfolded through experience and self-discovery.
Absolute trust is a foundational element in the therapist-patient relationship. Deep and unwavering trust allows for an open and honest dialogue where no topic is off-limits. A therapist is someone with whom you can share your most personal and challenging thoughts without fear of judgment.
This level of trust is vital because a therapist can only offer appropriate advice and guidance when armed with an accurate and complete understanding of the issues at hand. Transparency and openness are essential for the therapeutic process to be effective and for the therapist to provide the best possible support and insights.
Listening and giving sincere consideration to suggested interventions, even when they may initially seem unconventional or futile, is crucial. While there’s no guarantee that every suggestion will prove effective, both you and your therapist won’t know unless you give it a chance.
Indeed, the journey of self-improvement and personal growth begins with oneself. While external support, guidance, and resources can play crucial roles, the active process of change and healing ultimately rests within the individual. Recognizing that you have the agency to work on yourself and take steps toward positive transformation is an empowering perspective.
Self-awareness, self-acceptance, and a commitment to personal development are fundamental aspects of this journey. Seeking support from others, such as therapists, friends, or family, can provide valuable insights and encouragement, but the initiative to change and grow always starts from within. Embracing this self-directed approach fosters a sense of empowerment and ownership over one’s well-being.
In pursuit of self-awareness, mastering boundaries has been crucial. Overcoming the “should-a, could-a, would-a” mentality has proven to be a challenging endeavor. Through dedicated learning and practice, I’ve reached a point where a mental red flag is raised whenever such thoughts arise. Initiating a thought with “I should have…”, “I could have…”, or “I would have…” now triggers caution. While reflecting on past decisions can sometimes be beneficial in a limited capacity, more often than not, it tends to be counterproductive or even harmful. A fundamental principle I’ve embraced is to approach the past with a focus on learning and growth, steering clear of harsh self-judgment.
Avoid the “Should-a, Would-a, Could-a” trap
Personal experience with meditation serves as a prime example. Initially skeptical and viewing it as a potential waste of time, I discovered that my opinion was rooted in a lack of understanding about what meditation involves and how it functions. Now, meditation is an integral part of my daily routine, aiding me in maintaining focus and balance in my life. This positive change would have been missed if I hadn’t been open to trying it, asking questions, and receiving valuable suggestions, advice, and tips.
Being a successful patient involves a willingness to listen to someone with training and experience, overcoming and admitting our own misconceptions and misinformation. It’s a collaborative process where openness and a willingness to explore various strategies contribute to the potential for positive outcomes.
Arming Yourself With Tools
Utilizing various tools to aid in your journey is essential, and the effectiveness of these tools is highly personal. What works best for one person may not be as effective for another. The key lies in exploring the available tools, giving them a try, and then narrowing down the list to those that resonate with you and prove effective in your unique situation.
However, having these tools at your disposal is only effective if you understand when and how to use them in different circumstances. This understanding requires developing awareness of symptoms as you experience them. Initially, this awareness might happen in hindsight, but with experience, guidance, and reflection from your therapist, you’ll become better equipped to identify problems and issues as they arise. This increased awareness empowers you to take appropriate action before the issues escalate or become unmanageable.
Some of the tools I have found effective in my own personal experience include: A reality check; mindfulness; meditation; celebrating positives; artistic expression through poetry, painting and wood working, and delaying action.
A Reality Check: There are occasions when I find myself grappling with an open-ended question, presented with a multitude of potential answers. Intriguingly, my mind often gravitates towards the most pessimistic possibility, despite its improbability. Even when aware that there are invariably multiple perspectives to consider, I occasionally find myself fixated on a singular, bleak outcome.
In these moments, I employ a reality check—a simple yet effective strategy. Seeking the input of one or two trusted individuals offers a fresh perspective, often diverging from my initial apprehensions. This process illuminates the more plausible scenarios, dispelling the shadows of doubt cast by my own pessimism.
This technique proves particularly invaluable when confronted with seemingly binary situations, where alternatives are obscured by what I term “black & black thinking.” This tendency is exacerbated by my deep-seated fear of being confined to a scenario devoid of choice.
Through the practice of seeking external viewpoints, I not only mitigate the influence of my own skewed perceptions but also cultivate a greater appreciation for the spectrum of possibilities that exist beyond my initial apprehensions. Invariably, when the resolution finally emerges, it rarely aligns with my initial dire predictions, underscoring the fallibility of my own interpretations.
Mindfulness: Being aware of what is going on right here, right now is something that is calming since you can avoid fears and questions that have no ready answer or solution. You can also avoid negative thought bsed on past failures, flaws or faults. Each of us has a limited amount of focus and atttention we can apply during any given period of time. By being mindful, we can avoid wasting time and energy on things that we cannot change. We can’t change the past, we can learn from it. We do not know the future, and plans can and will change.
Meditation: Meditation for me is a narrow application of Mindfulness. There are several different meditations I use frequently. Several are breathing exercises where you focus on the feelings of the air passing your nose and mouth, along with feeling your chest rise and fall. Several are mental imagery exercises where I look at a picture in my mind, starting with the whole picture, then narrowing my focus to increasing the level of details in the image.
Celebrating Positives: Each morning, I try to list 5 things that I look forward to for the coming day. There are times where 5 seems like a really big number. Other times, it’s a piece of cake. At night, I try to list 5 things that were good that day. Again, sometimes 5 is a hard number, sometimes it’s easy. In both cases, I avoid using the word “but”. Keep each item simple, with no “but” like “I had a good lunch, but the burger was cold”. Keep it at just “I had a good lunch”. I call this “Don’t show your butt”!
Artistic Expression: I never thought of myself as an artist, even though I had some success in my younger days with photography. After retirement, I had the freedom to explore my more artistic side and found that it gave me joy. Even if noone else found my work to be of note, just the process gave me joy. I was also rewarded when I shared my work with others, many of whom appreciated and complimented my work. I’ve written poetry and prose, done some painting, ceramics and drawing. I apply the mindfulness lessons when I’m creating, and that frees me from the fears of rejection and failure.
Delayed Action: In the depths of severe depression, when my usual coping mechanisms falter, and thoughts of suicide loom ominously, I find solace in one simple yet powerful tool: delay. In these darkest of times, when summoning the strength to utilize my usual strategies feels nearly impossible, delaying offers a lifeline that requires minimal effort or willpower.
Rather than denying the intensity of my feelings or suppressing my thoughts of self-harm, I acknowledge them. I accept the reality of my plan, but with a crucial caveat—I postpone action, pledging to revisit the idea in an hour, or perhaps tomorrow. This simple act of postponement grants me a temporary reprieve, allowing the intensity of my emotions to ebb.
the act of delaying provides the necessary breathing room for clarity to emerge
Remarkably, these deeply distressing thoughts seldom linger for long, and the act of delaying provides the necessary breathing room for clarity to emerge. It’s a strategy that has safeguarded me on numerous occasions, offering a crucial buffer between despair and hope.
As the adage goes, “suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” Embracing the power of delay reminds me that even in the darkest of moments, there is always the potential for light to dawn anew.
What’s On The Menu?
Therapy
Embarking on the journey of self-improvement and mental well-being offers a multitude of options, each as diverse as the individuals themselves. However, navigating these choices can be a formidable challenge, often beginning with the quest to find a suitable therapist—a hurdle in itself.
Locating a therapist can be initiated through local resources such as county or state mental health services, suggestions from insurance providers, or recommendations from primary care doctors. The digital realm provides additional avenues through online directories like Psychology Today, TherapyRoute, and GoodTherapy. Collaborating with insurance companies to acquire a list of covered providers is another practical approach.
Beyond therapy, support groups offer a communal space for individuals grappling with similar challenges. Whether local or online, these groups foster connection and shared understanding. In times of crisis, national helplines such as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline or Crisis Text Line provide immediate support.
Mental health apps like Headspace, Calm, and BetterHelp cater to those seeking virtual assistance, providing guided meditation, stress relief, and online therapy sessions. Exploring books on mental health, self-help, and personal development is yet another avenue, offering valuable insights and strategies.
Online therapy platforms, such as BetterHelp and Talkspace, facilitate virtual counseling, while community centers and nonprofit organizations often extend mental health services or guidance to local resources. Workplace assistance programs, like Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs), are additional channels through which employers offer access to counseling services.
While the online realm provides a wealth of resources, caution is advised due to the prevalence of scams and misinformation. Personal recommendations and verified sources take precedence, emphasizing the importance of real connections and validated information in the pursuit of mental well-being.
Medications
Another crucial aspect of addressing mental health challenges lies in the realm of medications. Significant advancements have been made in this field, not only in terms of efficacy and reduced side effects but also in the variety of options available to healthcare providers. As previously mentioned, mental health issues often have physiological components, and medications can play a pivotal role in the journey to recovery.
Psychiatrists, with their specialized training, are adept at identifying symptoms that can be alleviated with medication. However, the process of finding the right medication can be complex and multifaceted. While there may be several choices for a particular set of symptoms, what works well for one individual may not have the same effect for another.
In my own experience, there were numerous occasions where doctors had to explore multiple medications to find the one that suited my specific body chemistry. This involved starting with a low dosage and gradually increasing it over time until reaching a therapeutic level. This titration process can span weeks or even months, only to discover that the medication isn’t the right fit. Then begins the process of tapering off that medication before moving on to the next option.
It’s essential to convey this experience because societal expectations often lean towards the notion of a quick fix with medication. While this can sometimes be the case, it’s crucial to understand that finding the right medication or combination of medications may require considerable patience. In my own journey, it took several years to strike the right balance.
It’s important to be kind to yourself and exercise patience throughout this process. While it can be frustrating and arduous, the eventual outcome—finding the right medication regimen—is well worth the time and effort invested. Remember, healing is a journey, and each step, no matter how challenging, brings you closer to wellness.
Treatments and Procedures
In addition to traditional medications and therapies, there are alternative treatments that can offer significant benefits for individuals facing mental health challenges. One such treatment that I personally underwent is Electro-Convulsive Therapy (ECT). Contrary to its portrayal in popular media, ECT is conducted in a hospital setting under general anesthesia, ensuring safety and comfort throughout the procedure.
During my two-month course of ECT, I experienced profound and long-lasting results. While there are potential side effects, they are typically mild. Following each session, I often felt very tired and would sleep for several hours. Additionally, some degree of memory loss was common, although it was usually temporary. I vividly recall one instance where I had to drive to an unfamiliar location downtown. Before setting out, I couldn’t recall the area at all. However, as I followed the directions provided, fragments of familiarity—whether a sign or a building—would trigger the return of my memory for the next block or two. While there are some memories from years past that have yet to resurface, this inconvenience is outweighed by the significant benefits of the treatment.
It’s crucial to emphasize that Electro-Convulsive Therapy (ECT) may not be appropriate for everyone, and its suitability should be thoroughly discussed with healthcare professionals. However, for individuals who may benefit from it, ECT can present a viable and effective treatment option, offering relief from symptoms and enhancing overall well-being.
The key takeaway is to remain open to treatments recommended by your healthcare providers, even if you have preconceived notions about the procedure. While it’s natural to have concerns or reservations, having an open mind allows for a thorough exploration of all available options and increases the likelihood of finding a treatment approach that best suits your individual needs and circumstances. Ultimately, the goal is to prioritize your mental health and well-being, and being receptive to different treatment modalities can be an important step in achieving that objective.
Other Services
It’s crucial to recognize that addressing mental health challenges often requires a comprehensive approach that extends beyond traditional mental health services. Indeed, overlooking other available resources can hinder our overall well-being and progress towards recovery. Services such as financial assistance programs, support with Activities of Daily Living (ADLs), transportation assistance, and treatment for chronic health conditions like heart disease or diabetes can all play a significant role in supporting mental health.
Sometimes, the focus on immediate mental health needs can lead us to neglect other essential aspects of our lives. For instance, if we’re unable to access transportation, attending appointments or accessing mental health services becomes significantly challenging. Additionally, managing chronic health conditions or maintaining basic tasks of daily living can directly impact our mental health and overall quality of life.
Furthermore, external factors such as a cluttered or messy living environment can contribute to feelings of self-judgment and disappointment, which may exacerbate mental health struggles. Therefore, addressing these environmental factors and seeking support for practical needs can be instrumental in supporting our mental health journey.
In essence, adopting a holistic approach to mental health involves recognizing and addressing all aspects of our well-being, including physical, emotional, and environmental factors. By prioritizing access to various support services and addressing practical needs, we can create a supportive environment conducive to mental health recovery and overall wellness.
Resources Are Available
It is essential to remind ourselves of the wide array of resources available when it feels like help is out of reach. From therapy and medications to procedures and support services, there’s a diverse menu of options to explore on the journey towards mental health and well-being.
During moments of distress or despair, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or isolated. However, remembering the multitude of avenues for support can provide hope and encouragement. Whether it’s reaching out to a therapist, exploring different medication options, considering procedures like Electro-Convulsive Therapy (ECT), or accessing support services for practical needs, there are numerous paths to explore.
By keeping this diverse range of resources in mind, we empower ourselves to take proactive steps towards seeking the help and support we need. Each option on the menu represents a potential avenue for healing and growth, reminding us that there is always hope and help available, even in our darkest moments.
Bumps Along The Road
Navigating the landscape of mental health professionals has been a journey marked by both fortunate encounters and challenging experiences. While I’ve been fortunate to find several exceptional therapists and a great psychiatrist, the path wasn’t without its bumps.
One recurrent challenge arose from having to change therapists due to their retirements or decisions to practice closer to home. After a few transitions, a humorous misconception surfaced – I began to worry that I might be the catalyst for their career changes. Of course, this was far from reality, and upon sharing my lighthearted concern with them, it elicited laughter. The common factor was our shared generation, with many therapists in my area nearing retirement and seeking to reduce their travel.
However, not all experiences were lighthearted. In the early stages of my journey, a troubling encounter unfolded with a psychiatrist focused on medication management. The appointments were brief, centered around assessing the effectiveness of current medications and making adjustments. During one session, when expressing that my symptoms hadn’t improved, the psychiatrist responded dismissively and angrily, asking, “Well, what the heck do you want me to prescribe?” This encounter left me feeling unheard and misunderstood.
The situation escalated when, during a hospital stay following a suicide attempt, I had to cancel an appointment with the psychiatrist. Unbeknownst to me, he maintained the appointment and scheduled another for the next day. So two appointments a day apart, both during my hospital stay. Upon my discharge, I attempted to schedule a follow-up, only to face a shocking turn of events. The psychiatrist refused to see me, citing missed appointments without acknowledging they occurred during my hospitalization. His loud and angry remarks in front of other patients added an additional layer of distress to an already challenging situation.
The journey has been dotted with various challenges, most appearing minor in hindsight. Through the multitude of experiences, a valuable lesson emerged: every challenge, regardless of size, can be overcome. Patience, perseverance, and the support of those around you become the keys to moving forward.
obstacles in one’s past are not indicators of weakness but rather testimonials to personal strength.
It becomes essential to recognize that obstacles in one’s past are not indicators of weakness but rather testimonials to personal strength. Surviving and overcoming these difficulties are significant achievements that should be acknowledged. It’s crucial to remind oneself that in the face of adversity, the strength to endure and prevail prevails – a testament to resilience and an ongoing journey toward personal growth.
Mental Health Issues Can Have Physical Health Causes
An important lesson learned on my journey is the recognition that many mental health issues have roots in physical changes or causes. Symptoms often trace back to imbalances in the chemicals within our bodies. Drawing a parallel with conditions like diabetes, where issues with insulin lead to the disease, imbalances in various chemicals can manifest as mental health symptoms. It prompts a reflection – we don’t shame people with diabetes; then why stigmatize those grappling with depression or other mental health issues?
Understanding that mental health challenges are not the outcome of personal choices, failures, or character defects is crucial. Rather than a voluntary decision, it’s a complex interplay of biological factors that necessitates compassion and support rather than judgment.
equip yourself with the knowledge needed to be the “rock in the stormy sea” they can cling to for safety
Acknowledging these realities makes it more reasonable to extend support and understanding to someone grappling with mental health problems. For those who discover a friend or family member contending with symptoms, this realization puts them in a better frame of mind to offer the necessary support and care when it is needed most. If there’s one message I could impart to those reading this, it would be: Stand with those you care about, equip yourself with the knowledge needed to be the “rock in the stormy sea” they can cling to for safety.
In the realm of holistic health, it’s paramount to acknowledge the intricate interplay between physical and mental well-being. Other health conditions can significantly impact mental health, whether through direct physiological mechanisms or indirect psychological effects. This interconnectedness extends to medications prescribed for various health issues, which may inadvertently influence mental well-being.
Personally navigating several severe health conditions, I’ve come to understand the complexity of managing multiple prescriptions from different specialists. While each doctor may prescribe medication pertinent to their field, the full spectrum of potential interactions and psychological side effects isn’t always apparent. To address this, regular consultations with a pharmacist have become a crucial aspect of my healthcare routine. During these sessions, the pharmacist meticulously reviews my medication list, scrutinizing for potential interactions and contraindications.
While the majority of medication regimens may proceed without incident, there have been instances where the keen eye of the pharmacist has caught potentially hazardous situations before they escalate. This collaborative approach between healthcare providers serves as a vital safeguard, ensuring the safety and well-being of individuals managing complex health conditions.
In essence, recognizing and addressing the intricate connections between physical and mental health is essential for comprehensive well-being. By fostering collaboration among healthcare professionals and remaining vigilant to potential risks, individuals can navigate their health journey with greater confidence and safety.
Take The First Step
You’ve read this far, and that shows you have persistance, and an interest in having a better life. So what next?
If you are really struggling, and having serious, dangerous thoughts, call a suicide hot-line – now. Not in a few minutes, but right now. In the United States, dial or text 988 to connect with compassionate individuals available 24/7 who are dedicated to assisting you. Click here or on the picture to learn more about what they do and who they are.
If you require more immediate, in-person assistance, dialing 911 is crucial. Emergency responders are now equipped and trained better than ever to provide compassionate and understanding care and assistance when it’s needed most.
Outside the US, there is a list of numbers you can contact at https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/
Even if you’re not currently in danger, reaching out to them can still be beneficial. Sometimes, all we need is someone to listen, to provide an outlet for what’s troubling us. They can assist with that too.
You might also contact your primary care doctor for a referal, or check with your insurance company to find someone in your area covered by your insurance. The important thing is to take that first step on your path to a much better life!
A Note Especially For Caregivers
If you find yourself in the role of supporting a loved one on their mental health journey, know that your presence and involvement are invaluable. While therapists and professionals play a crucial role with their specialized training, they may not always be readily available when immediate support is needed. Your role, however, is more constant—a steady presence in their life, offering support beyond scheduled appointments.
Here are some key points to keep in mind as you navigate this role:
- Take care of yourself: Your own well-being is paramount. You cannot effectively support others if your own health suffers. Recognize your limits and prioritize self-care.
- You are not the sole resource: It’s important to acknowledge that while you play a vital role, you are not the only source of support available to your loved one. Recognizing this prevents burnout and ensures they receive the comprehensive care they need.
- You can’t “fix” them: Understand that you cannot single-handedly resolve your loved one’s challenges. True change comes from within them. Your role is to offer encouragement, support, and a listening ear as they navigate their journey towards healing.
- Set boundaries: Learn to say “no” or “not now” when necessary. It’s essential to establish realistic boundaries to protect your own well-being. There may be times when you cannot be available, and that’s okay.
- Offer kindness and understanding: Every individual’s needs are different. While practical support such as transportation or meal assistance may be helpful, emotional support is universally important. Offer kindness, understanding, and comfort to show your unwavering support.
Remember, being there for someone on their mental health journey is a profound act of compassion and love. By taking care of yourself and offering unwavering support, you play an integral role in their healing process.
Take care of yourself
Your own well-being should always be a top priority. As you support someone on their mental health journey, remember that you cannot effectively assist them if your own health suffers. Recognize your limits and make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine. Whether it’s setting aside time for activities you enjoy, seeking support from friends and family, or practicing mindfulness and relaxation techniques, prioritize actions that nourish your physical, emotional, and mental health. Remember, you are better equipped to provide support when you are feeling balanced and rejuvenated yourself.